What do you get family you've maybe lost touch with a little?
Kids grow so fast, what is Amy into right now?
Grandma's got everything she ever wanted and I'm sick of wasting money on fripperies
All questions we often ask ourselves around the holidays
What my family and I have done this year is share Amazon wish lists. I'm so glad I did as Amy would have been getting Peppa pig again and she actually into film making and the sciences!
So that's how I'm buying this year sorted...... Do you have ideas for gifts for those who may have it all? Do you discuss gifts before buying? Or are you the people who buy gift packages of toiletries.... Only to be gifted them back the following year?
We get together with my brothers and their families and my mom and exchange gifts. For years, when my dad was alive, it was a free for all, who could bring the most gifts, most were odds and ends the other person would never need or pick for themselves, it was stressful and insane.
Then we tried drawing names and spending a reasonable amount on the one whose name we drew, but certain ones always wanted certain ones and that finally failed.
Then last year we tried making it fun again by all of us shopping in the same store, the dollar store here where everything is a dollar and we could spend a certain amount on each person. That was okay and even my family, who hate to shop,enjoyed it.
Now this year we are considering only buying for my mom who has been sick most of this year. somehow i think that is not going to happen but that is where we are.
we also decided gift cards and cash were ok, that it was better to let someone pick out something they wanted or needed as opposed to one more thing that was bought out of a sense of desperation to have a gift.
Teens... gift cards or cash (you absolutely cannot go wrong)
elders... add-ons for their phone or tv to hear it or see it better, robes, slippers, gift card for whatever grocery store she frequents.
Find out what young ones are into... my nephew plays Lacrosse, so he's getting lacrosse stuff from me. My nieces always get new Vera Bradley purses from me. They have collections now. I put a little something IN the purse, not always money, stuff like Burt's Bees, little novelty change purses, little notebooks, or whatever. I just go to the Japanese Daiso store (there's also daisojapan dot com) and pick up a few things :) I make my shopping fun for the kids, and I start like in September.
cash or check or amazon gift card. its such a pain to keep an active wish list. when i want something i just buy it. but if i don't my brother will get me something probably dumb. so i have to spend my time looking for good things for him to buy me, instead of just buying it myself. if i had a credit, i could just get what i want. but its no as special to hand over an envelope for twice chai in the form of an amazon gift card.
we have stacks of gift cards we never even used. places we don't go at all like barns and noble, or star bucks. because they saw it and got it. but i shop at amazon. so if you can find out where they shop, it would have a little more meaning.
i have 2 nieces. i have no idea what to get them. it should be educational but fun. and i get them both the same thing because i don't know if they will fight or not. one has an interest in science, the other one likes to test her limits of what she can get away with. and there really isn't a toy for that.
but if you want, you can buy art from me. or get me tools, i'll tell you what. or that amazon gift card.
For the 'older' ones that have everything they need, I bake cookies and make peanut brittle, put them in dollar store baskets and wrap in cellophane and ribbon. They seem to like the 'baked and maked' goodies.
For my teenage grandsons, I have no idea haha! But they do get money and a few electronic doodads...
I like the idea of the Amazon wish list. I keep asking my mom and sister to use it (I've got a long, juicy list!) but they keep insisting on buying me clothing that I don't wear. And then they tell me how hard I am to shop for.
See's is a very special California candy shop. They are not in say a CVS or Walgreens (although they are in airport shops). They, to me, are unsurpassed. But yes, find out about allergies , diet restrictions first.
Although my fave is the Key Lime truffle, that pineapple one sounds yummy too. Next time I'm on Market St, I'll try one.
Mike's idea is great if the cards dont devalue. I had a movie card that I received in 2007 I've had it in my wallet till this November... and AMC had issues with people stealing them and they canx all and reissued years ago.
Barring that you can bet there will be a movie they want to see, young or old.
We only gift the children/grandchildren on our Chanukah celebrations....no competition with Xmas!
I always research best selling and favorite gifts for their age range and shop at Amazon. This year, I knocked it out of the ballpark with the grandkids....I already got a video of them oohing and aaahhhhing and a Facetime thank you with smiles. I love Amazon!
My grownup children (such an oxymoron!) got turntables as per their request....both are into music and they will get to split my classic collection of vinyls.
and sometimes you have to synchronize the gifts. since my nieces were born, my mother wanted to give them a small camera. for years she waited for them to get older to get one. finally, she could do the research, reviews, pie charts and all the things used in getting it. and it thought, wouldn't it be really funny if someone else got the exact same thing? and she's like, shut up, that won't happen. because the other side gets just like whatever for them.
and then, my brother mentions these camera's that the other grandparents bought - the exact same thing. and all that time spent was for nothing, and we had no real back up gift. and ended up at a walmart rushing to get something. which i think they liked better, because they don't quite have the concept of being able to shoot photos, just silly movies. and the camera's she bought went back for credit.
I guess, I am a bit of a broken record......we drop about $100 on one present for one person. We sneak around asking what that person wants, so as not to waste money. This year mom refused to say what she wanted, so I had that thread on this.
We buy small gifts for the nephews and niece. But my parents gift them about $200 each for an experience, could be a movie with friends. The sisters each buy things, usually more practical, for the kids.
The three couples individually exchange gifts.
Then the fun starts, we do a Yankee Swap. With the number one getting the last say. That gift can be up to $15.
The grandkids get gifts - grandma sends son the money for it. I asked her what she wanted this year - "nothing" (and what she will probably get) - she asked me - but the winning lottery ticket would work - otherwise - I'm not in need of anything - except my health and once more I'm at the mercy of the doctors/dentists
Marlene - it's not an 'oxymoron' - I have a 45 year old son/child whose wife just a month ago gave him a new daughter - and his oldest daughter has just left from home at 18. I've still tried to figure out when they did it - because the whole family only talks to each other on the phone - even if they are in the same room.
Congratulations on your new granddaughter RD......lots of opportunities for buying teddies etc.
My "kids" have Amazon Wish Lists and have done for years. I will be chatting to my Mum on the phone today with me on the computer looking at the lists and ordering things for her to gift them (She will give me money) and then order some bits myself. My daughter is a book fiend and my son plays XBox games so Amazon is ideal.
My young nieces are getting items suggested by my Sis. The nearly three year old loves to "help" in the garden so I've got a mini fork, trowel, gloves etc.
My brother suggested a year ago that we were all " too old" for present giving so that is a couple less!! I tend to agree that just sending cheques, cash or gift cards back and forth with no idea what, if anything they are used for seems a bit ridiculous!
I love wrapping gifts and seeing people's face as they open them. Did not really appreciate it until buying just what they wanted. Takes away the mock...oh how lovely... To true smiling eyes! Love that.
I'm also going to add Joy and Gaby's ideas! Love the idea of baking for them and the purses.
you could also do a gift basket. filling it with smaller items they may like, mugs, candy, and other things could be hidden throughout. a few toys (everyone loves toys), a gift card to amazon, a gift card to my store, cookies and so on. then get shrink wrap and cover it. wrapping that in paper would be hard though, and shaking woudln't be a great idea. i like baskets because you can have a variety of things, and you have a sense of discovery at the same time. plus you can buy things in bulk and make a number of them.